tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post2292119814107899343..comments2023-10-22T09:42:36.750-04:00Comments on Casa Mariposa: The Package Deal: Compromise in GardeningCasa Mariposahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comBlogger74125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-57554151436872660132013-02-20T20:57:59.712-05:002013-02-20T20:57:59.712-05:00Just a little late in commenting here. I like exp...Just a little late in commenting here. I like expanding the garden beds and moving the sod pieces to repair the lawn where the dogs made their mark. Right now our lawn areas look like we are running cattle...with two dogs. What a mess. Janet, The Queen of Seafordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07876204203323750245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-57015420782885229012013-02-10T04:23:58.907-05:002013-02-10T04:23:58.907-05:00I love the thoughts you express here. My husband ...I love the thoughts you express here. My husband has similar work constraints. He doesn't dilike gardening but there just isn't space in his life to spend time working on a garden right now. I think you describe the give and take that love demands perfectly, thank you for putting those ideas into words. ChristinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-22617384578295852252013-02-09T14:56:15.239-05:002013-02-09T14:56:15.239-05:00Isn't that the truth? LOL!
I can never get ov...Isn't that the truth? LOL!<br /><br />I can never get over that combination of deutzia and lamium. Gorgeous!sweetbayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06248743114944736346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-14771610260489679832013-02-09T14:02:37.754-05:002013-02-09T14:02:37.754-05:00Sounds like you understand each other perfectly an...Sounds like you understand each other perfectly and respect each other's needs. So very important in a marriage. My husband too really isn't that interested in the garden but for me he makes an effort to help out when asked and listens patiently when I need to discuss new plans for the yard. In exchange I encourage his golf habit ;-)Margueritehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14377516887669269657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-50803020700538227772013-02-09T11:41:48.403-05:002013-02-09T11:41:48.403-05:00I smiled when I read the second sentence of your c...I smiled when I read the second sentence of your comment. My husband likes the grass but loves his wife so the garden grows every year. :o)Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-22282770946020274992013-02-09T11:40:06.859-05:002013-02-09T11:40:06.859-05:00You are amazing for suggesting her to me!! She is...You are amazing for suggesting her to me!! She is exactly the face of gardening I wish we saw more of here. I checked out her website and love it!! Out with the baggy grey pants, in with a cool skirt and impractical top! Gardening style is a bit lacking, to put it mildly. So inspired! Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-20055611923235283062013-02-09T07:48:03.222-05:002013-02-09T07:48:03.222-05:00On the topic of what to wear, we have this celebri...On the topic of what to wear, we have this celebrity gardener called Laetitia Maeklouf over this side of the pond who always wears a skirt to do her gardening along with some ridiculously impractical top like crocheted lace or something similar. The rest of the gardening world is clearly miles behind in the style stakes but Laetitia is probably rich enough to pay other people to do the dirty jobs.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16769705418477727909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-13080762814451873812013-02-08T23:25:07.720-05:002013-02-08T23:25:07.720-05:00I enjoyed your story! My husband likes the lawn bu...I enjoyed your story! My husband likes the lawn but he also loves me, more than the lawn. That is why he says OK when I tell him that I want to remove a part of the lawn and turn it to a flower bed. We have two dogs and two boys, so I'll always keep a part of the lawn for them. Moreover, the lawn provides a place for the eyes to rest.Tatyana@MySecretGardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15230255354868127650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-14639069435213930902013-02-08T21:46:26.789-05:002013-02-08T21:46:26.789-05:00That's funny!! It sounds so grand. :o) My husb...That's funny!! It sounds so grand. :o) My husband has the luxury of enjoying a garden without having to do any of the work. But that's ok. He once made a bizarre planting design suggestion that ended with me pointing the shovel in his direction and asking him to get out of my garden. He and I are both quite happy with our arrangement. He hauls, I design. :o)Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-18976623444767984422013-02-08T21:42:22.225-05:002013-02-08T21:42:22.225-05:00My visions for the garden and what my husband thin...My visions for the garden and what my husband thinks I'm describing are always completely different. His are always much smaller than mine. If you go to my post called Nearly Naked you'll get a much better view of the garden. :o) There have been many nights I've come in once it got dark after spending the entire day outside to find dinner waiting for me. Even if it's just a pizza, it always makes me happy. :o)Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-90366572094189474292013-02-08T21:38:56.807-05:002013-02-08T21:38:56.807-05:00Our situations sound very familiar. I don't ne...Our situations sound very familiar. I don't need my husband to join me, either. I just need respect and appreciation for my efforts and am well supplied with both. :o)Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-22269462514170801872013-02-08T21:36:26.648-05:002013-02-08T21:36:26.648-05:00Some people like to stoke the fire just to see it ...Some people like to stoke the fire just to see it blaze. I know someone like that. I had to learn to not react to anything they said since that's what they wanted. When I quit blazing , they quit stoking and left me alone. It was such a relief. You may be Penny, but I assure you I am Bridget Jones. I think Penny's a lot smarter than people realize. :o)Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-2191930366501322262013-02-08T20:03:47.680-05:002013-02-08T20:03:47.680-05:00About the only place my husband and I don't ar...About the only place my husband and I don't argue is the garden. We can work side by side quite happily for hours. Of course the minute we get inside and I say, "I think we should move the hydrangea' or something like that, we're off. I swear he disagrees just for the fun of it. It doesn't help that I'm Penny and he is Sheldon in our relationship.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830177691014290662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-81163626335016881172013-02-08T18:52:39.399-05:002013-02-08T18:52:39.399-05:00So much of life is about compromise but I'm li...So much of life is about compromise but I'm like you. My husband works away from home all week so when he's home on weekends the last thing I want to do is stick a honey-do list in his face. He needs to relax and rejuvenate. I get my kicks out of being in the garden so unless it's something that requires more brawn than I've got, I do it myself. Then, like your hubby he'll be outside in the evening and enjoy what I've created. This is all I need. GRACE PETERSONhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04520343332670354262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-18093650787373399572013-02-08T11:07:19.600-05:002013-02-08T11:07:19.600-05:00I think so many of us can relate to this beautiful...I think so many of us can relate to this beautifully written post...<br /><br />To varying degrees we are all in a similar situation. My husband is more then happy to help, but it drives him nuts not to see a picture of what I want to create...he needs to see a plan, not hear...I have a plan. But on blind faith he has more then once helped create some beauty in the garden.<br /><br />Now I just need more soil.<br /><br />I love what you have done, it's inspiring, and I have overlayed your garden in my mind on the same side of the house...your's will be my inspiration.<br /><br />JenRURAL https://www.blogger.com/profile/11871803235521431504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-61721090707281782832013-02-08T10:06:08.274-05:002013-02-08T10:06:08.274-05:00You sound just like my husband and I. I am like th...You sound just like my husband and I. I am like the live-in gardener and he's like the property owner. His payment is to stroll around in the summer and pluck a ripe tomato or two and pop it in his mouth. Like you, I wouldn't have it any other way :)Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01341233630137969987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-58308716072598510242013-02-08T08:32:19.408-05:002013-02-08T08:32:19.408-05:00The more I think about it, the more I realize I li...<br />The more I think about it, the more I realize I like it that way, too. I'd go crazy if I had to get a second opinion on everything I wanted to do in the garden. We used to have horrible grass and it really frustrated my husband. He's not a fanatic about the grass, he just wants it to be green and alive, which is totally understandable. Once I started helping him improve the grass by using some of the same products I use in the garden, the grass improved and do did his attitude. Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-58662822837740009492013-02-08T08:28:07.041-05:002013-02-08T08:28:07.041-05:00Thanks, Beth! :o) What's been fun about this p...<br />Thanks, Beth! :o) What's been fun about this post is how much it resonates with people. It seems like there are a lot of relationships out there comprised of a gardener and a garden appreciator who helps out when needed. Perhaps that's what keeps it all balanced. :o)Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-40797826374878761012013-02-08T06:01:19.703-05:002013-02-08T06:01:19.703-05:00Your situation sounds exactly the same as mine - m...Your situation sounds exactly the same as mine - my husband has no interest in gardening but does like the grass to look good - so it is a solitary pastime for me - which to be honest, is the way I like it, then there are no arguments about how each of us would like the garden to be.elaine https://www.blogger.com/profile/17075935631756457901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-78073980883089660062013-02-07T23:15:50.217-05:002013-02-07T23:15:50.217-05:00"Asking a gardener not to garden is like aski..."Asking a gardener not to garden is like asking a sports fan not to watch the game" -- Wow, so true! You are such a great writer, Tammy. I thoroughly enjoyed this from beginning to end.Beth at PlantPostingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10473637655960119672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-19367862441395544102013-02-07T21:58:25.842-05:002013-02-07T21:58:25.842-05:00He sprayed the crepe myrtles with herbicide? And h...<br />He sprayed the crepe myrtles with herbicide? And he's still alive? That's love! WHY did he spray them? Was it an accident or does he just really hate crepe myrtles? My husband once thought it would be smart to spray the weeds on a windy day and damaged several plants. I was furious.Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-14086362920332008812013-02-07T21:52:59.672-05:002013-02-07T21:52:59.672-05:00My husband has gradually begun to love the garden,...My husband has gradually begun to love the garden, and now that he is retired he has become more actively involved. I'm not sure I want that! For the most part he is content to do as I say, but sometimes he has ideas, which I may or may not like. Generally he is OK with spending money in the garden, which he sees as an 'investment'. He has come a long way from the day long ago when he sprayed the crepe myrtles, in full bloom, with herbicide!debsgardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15656883577922890561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-28526766276314449052013-02-07T20:54:10.187-05:002013-02-07T20:54:10.187-05:00Let me tell ya, Patty - I love heels! I wear them ...<br />Let me tell ya, Patty - I love heels! I wear them most days to work, which puts me at 5'10" in those babies. When a sassy 6th grader realizes how far up they have to look to talk back, they usually think twice. My evil eye is even scarier from that height. ;o)<br /><br />I've never thought of my posts as short stories but I think you're on to something. Maybe I'll start a new trend - the nano novelist. I'm so glad you like them!Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-48492740516333235702013-02-07T20:50:34.803-05:002013-02-07T20:50:34.803-05:00When I rip out an area of sod he always comments o...<br />When I rip out an area of sod he always comments on how big the new bed is and on how much sod is piled up. But within a few months I usually hear how much he likes the new bed. He never gets over the shock of grass removal. It's actually kind of funny. At least to me. Maybe not to him. ;o)Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289863235108169853.post-84734532698352005622013-02-07T20:48:15.575-05:002013-02-07T20:48:15.575-05:00My husband is genuinely excited for me when I'...<br />My husband is genuinely excited for me when I'm thrilled about something in the garden. He's equally excited not to have to do anything related to gardening other than haul heavy stuff. :o) Casa Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647089868277238456noreply@blogger.com